Comments on: The Science Behind Change: A Beginner’s Guide http://thewindingpath.net/2007/08/09/the-science-behind-change-a-beginners-guide/ Just another WordPress weblog Thu, 20 Nov 2008 07:58:16 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Power of Focused Attention | optimumself.com http://thewindingpath.net/2007/08/09/the-science-behind-change-a-beginners-guide/#comment-29528 Power of Focused Attention | optimumself.com Thu, 16 Oct 2008 06:25:35 +0000 http://thewindingpath.net/2007/08/09/the-science-behind-change-a-beginners-guide/#comment-29528 [...] Blog: The Science Behind Change: A Beginner’s Guide [...] [...] Blog: The Science Behind Change: A Beginner’s Guide [...]

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]]> By: Jenny and Erin — a tongue-in-cheek quest for understanding… http://thewindingpath.net/2007/08/09/the-science-behind-change-a-beginners-guide/#comment-2486 Jenny and Erin — a tongue-in-cheek quest for understanding… Wed, 10 Oct 2007 05:14:17 +0000 http://thewindingpath.net/2007/08/09/the-science-behind-change-a-beginners-guide/#comment-2486 [...] Posts: The Science Behind Change Challenging Our Mental Maps The Importance of Awareness and Acceptance, by Mark Lapierre Keeping [...] [...] Posts: The Science Behind Change Challenging Our Mental Maps The Importance of Awareness and Acceptance, by Mark Lapierre Keeping [...]

]]> By: Thinking outside the box | The Winding Path http://thewindingpath.net/2007/08/09/the-science-behind-change-a-beginners-guide/#comment-2387 Thinking outside the box | The Winding Path Fri, 28 Sep 2007 05:57:28 +0000 http://thewindingpath.net/2007/08/09/the-science-behind-change-a-beginners-guide/#comment-2387 [...] The Science Behind Change: A Beginner’s Guide If you liked this article share it with others via these links: [...] [...] The Science Behind Change: A Beginner’s Guide If you liked this article share it with others via these links: [...]

]]> By: Liara Covert http://thewindingpath.net/2007/08/09/the-science-behind-change-a-beginners-guide/#comment-2146 Liara Covert Fri, 10 Aug 2007 19:59:10 +0000 http://thewindingpath.net/2007/08/09/the-science-behind-change-a-beginners-guide/#comment-2146 I agree with Jason as well. As far as anyone I have ever met who believes they have changed anyone else, this is simply a point of view. If a person changes, that person has to decide to do that from inside. However, someone may believe he or she has influenced another person to change. You may have met more domineering or more submissive personalities. Not everyone feels he or she make decisions without outside influence. I agree with Jason as well. As far as anyone I have ever met who believes they have changed anyone else, this is simply a point of view. If a person changes, that person has to decide to do that from inside. However, someone may believe he or she has influenced another person to change. You may have met more domineering or more submissive personalities. Not everyone feels he or she make decisions without outside influence.

]]> By: Mark http://thewindingpath.net/2007/08/09/the-science-behind-change-a-beginners-guide/#comment-2145 Mark Thu, 09 Aug 2007 23:59:31 +0000 http://thewindingpath.net/2007/08/09/the-science-behind-change-a-beginners-guide/#comment-2145 Well said Jason. The perceived ability to change (or be changed by) another is probably a distinction which, when missed, traps many people in destructive relationships. Linked to that misperception, I think, is the belief that someone else's words/actions have a direct influence on your own emotional state. Well said Jason. The perceived ability to change (or be changed by) another is probably a distinction which, when missed, traps many people in destructive relationships. Linked to that misperception, I think, is the belief that someone else’s words/actions have a direct influence on your own emotional state.

]]> By: Jenny http://thewindingpath.net/2007/08/09/the-science-behind-change-a-beginners-guide/#comment-2143 Jenny Thu, 09 Aug 2007 23:52:20 +0000 http://thewindingpath.net/2007/08/09/the-science-behind-change-a-beginners-guide/#comment-2143 Thanks Jason! Thanks Jason!

]]> By: Jason http://thewindingpath.net/2007/08/09/the-science-behind-change-a-beginners-guide/#comment-2141 Jason Thu, 09 Aug 2007 16:55:03 +0000 http://thewindingpath.net/2007/08/09/the-science-behind-change-a-beginners-guide/#comment-2141 That was a great article. Thank you very much for writing it/posting it. It's always good to have a reminder of the need to focus on what you want to change. As far as Liara's comment goes, you absolutely cannot, in any way, shape, or form, force anyone else, partner or not, to change. All you can do is provide consequences for their choices. You can make it really pleasant for them to change, and really unpleasant if they don't, but you still can't force them to change. In fact, you can't force them to do anything. Every person is an individual, with their own freedom of choice, whether they are aware of it or not. They can choose to go along with whatever you want, essentially ceding their power of choice to you, but that's still their choice, and they can make a new choice to stop doing that at any time. Maybe I should do another article on that general topic soon. That was a great article. Thank you very much for writing it/posting it. It’s always good to have a reminder of the need to focus on what you want to change.

As far as Liara’s comment goes, you absolutely cannot, in any way, shape, or form, force anyone else, partner or not, to change. All you can do is provide consequences for their choices. You can make it really pleasant for them to change, and really unpleasant if they don’t, but you still can’t force them to change.

In fact, you can’t force them to do anything. Every person is an individual, with their own freedom of choice, whether they are aware of it or not. They can choose to go along with whatever you want, essentially ceding their power of choice to you, but that’s still their choice, and they can make a new choice to stop doing that at any time.

Maybe I should do another article on that general topic soon.

]]> By: Guest Post at The Winding Path http://thewindingpath.net/2007/08/09/the-science-behind-change-a-beginners-guide/#comment-2140 Guest Post at The Winding Path Thu, 09 Aug 2007 12:34:50 +0000 http://thewindingpath.net/2007/08/09/the-science-behind-change-a-beginners-guide/#comment-2140 [...] A couple of weeks ago it was our pleasure to have Mark guest post on our site. Check out his blog, The Winding Path, to read my very own (and very first) guest post, The Science Behind Change: A Beginner’s Guide. [...] [...] A couple of weeks ago it was our pleasure to have Mark guest post on our site. Check out his blog, The Winding Path, to read my very own (and very first) guest post, The Science Behind Change: A Beginner’s Guide. [...]

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